A few days ago, a twitter user with the handle @HijaDe2Madre started the hashtag/movement #AncientAbledProverbs. It gave internet users with disabilities of all kinds the ability to share the absurd, annoying, and generally stupid shit that abled people (that is, folks without disabilities) tell them. The half heart-felt colloquialisms that everyone seems to expertly have on the ready to lob at anyone who lives with a disability, regardless of the type, how it presents, or even whether they know the first thing about the person or their condition.
The disabled community (yours truly included) responded overwhelmingly, sharing hilarious, devastating, or just facepalm-worth pieces of "advice" or "insights" they've received.
Some folks shared about how, when you have a disability, every fucking person seems to suddenly be an expert on your particular condition and experience.
People shared how they are surrounded by so many people who are deeply concerned about equality.
When you are disabled, there are the suddenly loads of people who seem to think they're complimenting you, maybe? (Spoiler: It's fucking insulting).
And those who really empathize.
People shared about their DIVINE interactions with the abled.
There are the people who just want us to know how much they believe in us!
And, of course, those who just want us to know that we aren't alone/how fortunate we are.
As a chronically ill badass babe with a few invisible disabilities, I just want to thank the internet, filled with magnificent spoonies, for utilizing this hashtag to come together, support each other, raise awareness, and hopefully educate some abled individuals about how to relate to disabled individuals.
To all my abled friends, thank you for being supportive. Thank you for being kind. Thank you for being understanding. Thank you for being patient. Thank you for being the kind of people who make me want to get up and face the morning, day after day. Thank you for standing up against ableism and advocating for care and support for everyone. I appreciate you.